We often think that our bodies are not good enough and should be thinner, bigger enhanced in one way or another, over time this often becomes an obsession especially being constantly bombarded with images of what a perfect body should look or feel like.
This disengagement or disdain for the body that we have, often creates a whole host of challenges including the choices we make including the wrong diet, obsession with exercise and disengagement from self pleasure and intimacy with others for fear of not being perfect enough for their partner, in our minds eye.
Regular mindful erotic practice can rewire the neural pathways of the brain, engaging with the body in a transformative way including regulating our bodies, attuning to others, having emotional balance, calming fear, pausing before acting, having insight and empathy, being moral in our thinking and our actions, and having more access to intuition.
Being mindful in our lives is a skill that can be cultivated… In every sense of the term mindful—being conscientious and intentional in what we do, being open and creative with possibilities, or being aware of the present moment without grasping onto judgments—being mindful is a state of awareness that enables us to be flexible and receptive and to have presence. (Daniel Siegel, The Mindful Therapist)
The Primacy of Mindful Practice
Profound embodied learning takes place when we repeat a practice mindfully over time as students do in their yoga practice. Conscious repetition is how humans learn sex; thus the yoga model of education is central for learning sex.
A fundamental part of Sexological Bodywork learning takes place during your personal practice sessions. Mindful erotic practice will be the primary method for learning, and the majority of your expanding erotic capacities, will happen during your practice. While practice has always been central to Sexological Bodywork, new developments in neuroscience have furthered our commitment to the primacy of mindful practice in sex education.
The Great Medicine of the 21st Century
At the beginning of this century, researchers (Lutz, Davidson) at the University of Wisconsin did studies of neural imaging on the brains of Tibetan monks as they meditated. They found that years of Tibetan mindfulness meditation actually changed and benefited the brain, especially the prefrontal cortex.
Other neuroscientists since have found that one doesn’t have to do Tibetan meditation to have these beneficial results. Being fully present during any mindfulness practice can be astonishingly beneficial as we embrace our full human potential.
Daniel Siegel is one of the neuroscientists who are researching how mindfulness practices systematically develop our “middle prefrontal functions that include regulating our bodies, attuning to others, having emotional balance, calming fear, pausing before acting, having insight and empathy, being moral in our thinking and our actions, and having more access to intuition.” Siegel continues:
With mindfulness practice we may become more nonjudgmental, develop equanimity, be more aware of what is going on as it is happening, and develop the capacity to label and describe with words our internal world. We may even develop the ability to have more self-observation. (The Mindful Therapist, p. 31)
In summary, erotic practices, when done mindfully over time, help us learn sex while benefiting the core of human well being! The most powerful therapeutic and educational modality we currently possess is mindful practice.
Erotic practice allows us to know and value ourselves, as well as brings innumerable benefits for the brain and the body. Mindful practice (Mindful masturbation or Orgasmic Yoga) allows us to develop the skills necessary to play and dance with others. Sexological Bodywork = sex education + mindfulness.
Still Curious about how to get back into your body with Mindful erotic practice?
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